When you decide to spend the rest of his life with another person, there is agreat deal of unknown. We do not know how we grow and evolve, we do notknow what life holds... This is why it is important to be certain promises, to guide the relationship that is looming on the horizon...
1. Why do you love me?
Most people have seem to think that this kind of issue doesn't need response. There are many who will say they love someone else, simply because they like it -a horrible response. Everyone needs to know exactly why they like, and why theyare loved.
Loving someone is, in itself, something very selfish when you think, and there'snothing wrong with it. We love another person for what it does for us, for theway it makes feel us.
We all have a different answer to this question, but if we are not able to defineexactly what we like, there are chances that we have problems, once the initialpassion subsided...
2. Why do you want to spend the rest of your life with me?
"Because what I love" is not a valid answer! Life is not a long calm river, it is ajourney, an epic permanent. And for this kind of travel, we want to beaccompanied, agree. On the other hand, we do not all have the same destinationin mind. You want to stop at different places to admire the landscape is onething, but wait for the life of completely different things is another.
Your partner must be able to tell you what they want to share with you in lifethat awaits you. What are these small goals give you which make your uniquelifestyle!
3. will you do your best to keep the flame lit?
Keep your passion alive is not an easy thing. Keep the same interest that on thefirst day for the duration of your life, it's hard. This requires work, of creativity, ofthe gift of self. You and your partner, you try to please and impress youincessantly, which becomes increasingly difficult over the years.
Love cannot survive himself, he asks that it devotes time and energy to maintain.Is your partner ready to place this love as one of its central priorities?
4 grow you with me, and not far from me?
Perhaps we do not know exactly in which direction life takes us, we're going todiscover and learn... We do not know who is the person that we become, but wecan make a conscious effort to grow through one of the other, and not in away.
Marriage is not an end in itself. Many people lose interest over time because theyfeel that they have done what they had to accomplish in their relationship bymarrying. Then, they continue to evolve, each on their side. Marriage is not anend, on the contrary it should be a start!
5 will you be by my side in difficult times?
The moments of happiness, it's easy to pass them by staying together. However,when things go wrong, this is where your relationship is truly put to the test.
If you decide to stay with someone for the rest of his life, despite the situations,then you may leave no tragedy, no external forces undermine this decision. This isone of the most important lifetime decisions. Your partner a - t ' he took thatdecision? How about you?
6 are you ready to lose some battles in order to maintain the peace?
The key to peace in the couple, is to succeed to tame our ego. Even if you havethe competitive spirit, you always want to have reason, need to know choosebattles. Sometimes the stress and arguments really are not worth the shot.
7 can you promise me to put our couple before everything else?
Life has much to offer. And we have the eyes are bigger than your stomach, wewant to enjoy it to the maximum. The problem is that we do not have the time todo everything, our lives are short, and we need to make choices.
8. will you be a good parent?
How do I know if it is going to be a good parent or not? Just decide, in fact. Notblah - blah, just a decision and above all, an action to take. Sometimes we muststop to think: you'll be a great parent because you have decided to use all yourenergy to that. Your partner is ready to do the same?
9 can you promise me to still continue to pursue your goals and your personaldreams?
This is not because we are married that it's the end of the person we were before.Of course, it will ask you to change many areas... But there's a small part of usthat we must never allow us to let go: our dreams, our hopes and objectives thatwe have set for ourselves. This must stay alive.
If we lose this, we lose we ourselves, and everything that is our personality.Marriage is not just a 'we', it is also 'you' and 'me '.
10 can you promise me that if I die before you, you will continue to live for ustwo?
Do you like this person. You want what he or happy (se) first of all, whetheryou're with or not. No matter what the circumstances, you want to make surethat the person you love will continue to live his life fully.
That your partner will continue to do great things, it will continue to be happy...
The death of a loved one to destroy you internally. Sometimes, it's hard to pick up the pieces. Can your partner promise you find in him the strength and thecourage to continue to move forward without you?
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