Let me tell you a modern love story: girl meets boy, they start dating and fall in love. After a while, the girl is prepared to move forward. The boy is not. So the relationship is put on hold forever, always balancing between ecstasy and agony, but never achieving true balance.
Did you ever find yourself in this situation?
We can’t put an end to it because “he is so sweet when we are together”. But what about the rest of the time?
I’ve been in this situation and it was awful.
But I learned so much from it.
A while ago, I used to date a guy who was just like that. I was deeply in love with him and I wanted to believe that he loved me too. After all, when we were together he was the perfect man. But in the rest of the time it was as if I simply didn’t exist for him. The more I tried to get him to commit, the more he pushed me away. He would come back after a while, when he was sure that I missed him so much that I would forget how he had upset me. And that worked every time because he was giving me just enough love to keep me hooked.
That was until one day, when I accidentally discovered a simple solution that changed my life. The answer had been there in front of my eyes the whole time and I just needed someone to point me in the right direction.
He didn’t want to commit but it wasn’t because he had commitment issues.
He didn’t want to commit because he had commitment issues with me. (see which word I bolded there?)
Instead of wanting his commitment, I needed it. So naturally, he had built a barrier to keep me at arm’s length. This was until I discovered the commitment trigger. Now I am proud to call him my fiancée and we are about to get married in two months.
I manage to transform myself into a priority instead of an option and I did by learning just 3 simple things from a simple video from human psychologist and relation ship expert Alex Carter.
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